As I look at my life, I can point to many occasions where I might have gone back on decisions too early.
I recently came across something called the Dunning-Kruger effect. Put crudely, it is a sort of "the more you know, the more you realise you don't know" theory. It is easy to be optimistic at the start of a project, but as we delve further in, we see all the barriers to success and lose confidence. See graph below:
This strikes a chord with me, and I think explains in part why in the past I have changed direction too early.
I come up with a theory, an idea, a plan, and I get all pumped up. This breakthrough might be described as somewhat of an epiphany. I feel as though I have somehow "seen the light" and that my whole life has been leading up to this point. This is a game-changer and my life will be immeasurably better from now on, I think.
Exciting though these "epiphanies" can be, I have learnt that I need to exercise a certain amount of caution when they come around. There will almost certainly be difficulties and complications that I haven't even thought of yet.
If I keep this in mind it can help me not to put too much weight on the plan being the huge "game -changer" that I expect, and also prepare me not to be too knocked back when the inevitable difficulties (and their accompanying doubts) arise.
I have often been too quick to act on doubts. They have brought me to the conclusion that I have made the "wrong choice" and that I need to keep searching for the right one.
Meditation has helped me distance myself from my thoughts a little. If I'm observing my mind well, I can notice the doubts arise, and not buy into them too much. I can say to my mind "I can see what you're doing here, you won't get me that easily."
And whilst I do believe that a certain amount of contemplation is necessary and that we must also be wary of going too far the other way and being too "gung-ho," at some point we do just need to go for it.
Of course there may well be no "right choice." Even if there were, it is probably better to just make A choice and commit to it fully, rather than expend too much time and energy trying to find the perfect one.
I once heard someone say "you don't follow your passion, your passion follows you."
I think this is good advice. Rather than search for the right path, I think just choosing a path, sticking it to for a set period, and then reflecting, is a much more effective and enjoyable way to go.